Q & A
Tell us about yourself?
My name is Angela Reis, I am a mom of two active boys. I live in Las Vegas with my husband, kids, two dogs and cat. Professionally I am a birth doula and yoga teacher. I am a life-long learner. In my spare time I enjoy hot baths, reading, and watching cat videos.
What is your biggest challenge as a mom?
My husband and I knew that we wanted children close in age, as both of us have siblings with large age gaps. We wanted our family to have that close sibling experience. While I wanted kids close together, I felt very unprepared having children 17 months apart.
My biggest challenge as a mom is this feeling of overwhelm. Trying to stay on top of all the things. The laundry, dishes, housework, working my career, spending time with my kids, quality time with my husband, and finding time for myself.
It took me lots of tears, anger and resentment to find that balance. Working through the challenges, I was able to ask for help and find a way to take care of me. Asking for help and releasing the guilt about having help. Prior to having children, I was used to and enjoyed doing all the things. People came to me for help, not the other way around. Eventually I realized that people want to help you. People want to see you succeed. That became my mantra. I stopped feeling bad about asking for help or hiring a sitter. When my perspective shifted, it felt like weight had been lifted. I still get overwhelmed from time to time, but I have much better way of managing it.
What is your favorite part about being a mom?
My favorite part of being a mom is watching my children grow up and seeing their personalities shine. While having them close together can feel very tiring on some days, it is amazing to see their closeness.
What advice would you give to new moms?
Listen to your intuition. I think this is something forgotten in our society. There are so many different messages, opinions, the list goes on. Listen to your inner voice. Do what feels right and what works for your family.
Anyone who you would you like to thank that has helped you through motherhood?
I would especially like to thank my friends (Leyla, Adia, Erin, Isis, Kate - I am sure I am forgetting a few, but I love you and thank you), both with children and childless. It was through these close friendships that kept me going.